10 girls share what their Christmas relationships wishes are

This Christmas, we've put on our brave hats and come to you as a babe asking a dude for an updated theme walk in the Park of Life together.

Photos: ING Image
Photos: ING Image
23 Dec 2015

Photos: ING Image


Women chat easily (complain even) and readily with other women on things they want from their men. Ironically, we often find it easier to coyly ask a man for certain material things than to ask for things money can't buy. This Christmas, we've put on our brave hats and come to you as a 21st century babe asking a 21st century dude for an updated theme walk in the Park of Life together.

Karen Khng is Managing Director of Love Script International. Find Love Script at www.love-script.com or info@love-script.com.

1. My Christmas wish: Romance me! Make me feel beautiful.
1. My Christmas wish: Romance me! Make me feel beautiful.
23 Dec 2015

1. My Christmas wish: Romance me! Make me feel beautiful.

Remind me I'm the best (OK I'm pushing it but you get the point) thing that ever happened to you. Those words you once said to me were filled with strong belief. Now I know I'm fallible and am not your lottery ticket in life. Yet, you hang on.

We're women. No matter how pragmatic we are at home or how practical we are at work, we love being romanced by someone we're crazy about. It makes us feel like a giddy teenager and forget the now older lady looking back at us in the mirror.
 

2. My Christmas wish: Please help me around the house without me having to ask.
2. My Christmas wish: Please help me around the house without me having to ask.
23 Dec 2015

2. My Christmas wish: Please help me around the house without me having to ask.

SOS! Between my work, the kids, my parents, your parents, debates with siblings and other home plumbing, sink water-logged, and other home DIY hair-pulling fiascos, I'm frustrated and sinking miserably.

I may appear to be Super Mom Woman in your eyes but I'm still figuring out how to magically manufacture more hours so I can do more with less time. Help me out sometimes?

3. My Christmas wish: A continued dose of faithfulness and devotion.
3. My Christmas wish: A continued dose of faithfulness and devotion.
23 Dec 2015

3. My Christmas wish: A continued dose of faithfulness and devotion.

I've heard it a million times - men are visual. Check. But unlike some lucky ladies who are able to laugh it off, I still feel a little jealous after all these years together. I've almost perfected the keep-a-lid-on-your-irrational emotions process but it still needs some tweaking. Try your best not to glue your eyes on younger lasses who are stick thin, have round eyes, long fake lashes, easily slip on colored lenses and who unfairly yank anything from their wardrobe to make easy-peasy fashion perfection.

4. My Christmas wish: Be with me in the now.
4. My Christmas wish: Be with me in the now.
23 Dec 2015

4. My Christmas wish: Be with me in the now.

I don't just want your physical presence with fleeting glazed over looks that leak out from time to time (I saw them - really), I want to know that we are both in the present - locked and engaged. I know that I sometimes fiddle too much with my phone. Let's go back to analog times? Even if we're discussing boring stuff like what's for dinner or what to buy at the super market?

5. My Christmas wish: Make me feel like a woman
5. My Christmas wish: Make me feel like a woman
23 Dec 2015

5. My Christmas wish: Make me feel like a woman

I've become an amatuer DIY home fixer upper but I'm still a women underneath the paint stained, Chlorox-bleached DIY clothes you see me in all the time. I may make more money than you do and some at work may call me a dragon. But once I leave work, I'm all girl and mum. I defer to you to take the lead in matters big and small. I will follow. Sometimes I may make suggestions and seem to bulldoze my points forward but I don't mean to hurt you or your ego.

6. My Christmas wish: That you still find me attractive and fantasize about sex with me
6. My Christmas wish: That you still find me attractive and fantasize about sex with me
23 Dec 2015

6. My Christmas wish: That you still find me attractive and fantasize about sex with me

Men pleasure much more easily than women do. I'm sorry I want sex longer than your after-work stamina allows for. Truth be told, I'm sloshed as well. But I do look forward to our make-out sessions. They make me forget my A to Z responsibilities for that 30-60 minutes or so. I can deal with the occasional wham-bam-thank-you ma'am but I do love it when we kiss and lace fingers when in the act. Your signature moves are good but I'm open to upping the ante in our sex lives? Keen to gear up and come on board? 

7. My Christmas wish: Don't take me for granted
7. My Christmas wish: Don't take me for granted
23 Dec 2015

7. My Christmas wish: Don't take me for granted

A little respect and appreciation paves the road ahead to steady the relationship. A little kindness makes me feel you remember to be tender and reminds me that as much as I act like I'm on robot on auto-pilot, I'm (thankfully) not a robot.

Take the initiative sometimes. Plan an outing. Don't let me be the master builder and planner all the time. It's taken all the air out of me. Texting me first shows me I'm on your mind even as you tackle the sales challenges of your century. Talk to me.
 

8. My Christmas wish: Give me your blind loyalty, patience and compassion
8. My Christmas wish: Give me your blind loyalty, patience and compassion
23 Dec 2015

8. My Christmas wish: Give me your blind loyalty, patience and compassion

We're all goofballs at the end of the day, groping in the dark, hoping to wing the parenting challenge, the regional work challenge, the Don't-Throw-This-Cook-Out-Of -The-Kitchen contest. But knowing that you won't jeer at me when I don't succeed or when I'm feeling extra weepy makes me feel secure. Your loyalty to stand behind me, exercise compassion and patience, which is close to impossible when dealing with a 0-60 fury outburst temperament like mine, speaks volumes of the commitment you undertake each and every day.

9. My Christmas wish: Let's keep our eyes on the issue ball, not the blame ball!
9. My Christmas wish: Let's keep our eyes on the issue ball, not the blame ball!
23 Dec 2015

9. My Christmas wish: Let's keep our eyes on the issue ball, not the blame ball!

It's always easier to tai chi blame on someone else. I'm guilty of it in my worst moments. Sometimes we make bad decisions and the disaster snowballs into something unmanageable and tough to fix. I hate that, too. But let's both learn to take 1.5 steps back (two steps is tougher) and realize your mess is mine and my mess is yours. Let's figure out how to cement the cracks in the relationship and how to problem solve tactically, even if it means we're 70 per cent more broke now than before the crisis happened.

Don't shut down and go into caveman mode - silent or grumbling off point. Tell us if you need space and for how long. Don't sulk on indefinitely or snap at me incessantly. We really don't know what you're thinking. Tell us what's bothering you even if it's a tough man thing to do. Let's face our fears, our individual and joint dreams together. Don't make me paranoid and worry that you might skip off into the sunset far away from me or if someone else is in the picture. Be honest about your impressions of how I'm handling life and its arrows. But brutal honesty is cruel so be kind in your commentary.
 

10. My Christmas wish: Be my baby and my partner.
10. My Christmas wish: Be my baby and my partner.
23 Dec 2015

10. My Christmas wish: Be my baby and my partner.

Equality is too sanitary and scary a word. But I guess it's a word that wraps it all neatly into a nice steady package. I love that you're my rock, my handyman, my confidante, my boy (I sometimes have to mother you, you know!). But I also need a strong equal who props me when I'm down (because I'm truly not a superhero although I do have stylish clothes), makes me laugh with your silly notations, cares about my well being, who cheers me on for the silly and the important stuff.

I want you to share your bear-and-bull moments, celebrate my wins, our family achievements (because that's what my wins really are for at the end of the day)! I'm also calmed knowing that you won't judge when I've bombed big time, when I want to cry for days on end and can't get back on my feet! I'm grateful that you stand up for me, push us to work as a team, especially when we don't.

I once read: An average man will tell you he loves you once and then show you how much he loves you five different times. Thanks for hanging in for the wild ride and saying less when it matters. Happy Christmas, Bubba!
 

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