10 things shopping can teach you about finding a man

If you’ve ever gone shopping for a pair of jeans, you’ll know that finding the perfect pair is on par with finding true love.

10 things shopping can teach you about finding a man
10 things shopping can teach you about finding a man
11 Mar 2015

10 things shopping can teach you about finding a man

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If you’ve ever gone shopping for a pair of jeans, you’ll know that finding the perfect pair is on par with finding true love. The journey may be long, painful, and expensive, but it’s worth the wait after you find something that actually fits.

Now that we’re in GSS season, we can’t help thinking about all the ways that scouting the best deals parallels our endless journey for choosing Mr. Right.  Click through to see the 10 things that shopping can teach you about finding a man. 

1. You’re going to need a good wingwoman
1. You’re going to need a good wingwoman
11 Mar 2015

1. You’re going to need a good wingwoman

Some people are lucky. They wake up one morning, rush out of the house, and meet their soul mate 10 minutes later during their morning commute. But most of us need a little help – namely, from friends who know us well, who know the “market”, and who have our best interests at heart.

There’s a reason that hitting the malls during GSS is always more effective when you have a couple of friends. One of them inevitably knows where the best deals are, while another can give honest input on what looks good on you and what doesn’t. Same goes for love. If you’re down on your luck, ask a friend (one who REALLY knows you!) if she can help you get the ball rolling.  

2. You may be the one who has to change
2. You may be the one who has to change
11 Mar 2015

2. You may be the one who has to change

Let’s face it. Some of our most coveted items require a little bit of time in the gym. It’s not necessarily the dress’s fault for making you look like a chain of sausages. So when it comes finding the right fit, do remember that a few minor adjustments in character can make a world of difference (just ask anyone who’s ever worn a bandage dress after doing three months of yoga – or who has chanced upon love after overcoming her addictions). 

3. Love (and shopping) are not forms of therapy
3. Love (and shopping) are not forms of therapy
11 Mar 2015

3. Love (and shopping) are not forms of therapy

Everyone who’s ever indulged in retail therapy will recall that pang of regret upon examining her credit card bill. Hitting the malls out of sadness will only lead to more sadness. Same goes for finding a guy. Throwing yourself at a few dozen dudes after a major heartbreak will feel good in the moment, but it will only end in disappointment.  

4. You have to be in the right place at the right time
4. You have to be in the right place at the right time
11 Mar 2015

4. You have to be in the right place at the right time

Finding the perfect deal – such as that elusive blouse marked 75 per cent off, in your size, hidden in a sea of L’s and XL’s –  is all about timing. Sure, you have to do a little research, but every treasure hunt requires an element of luck. So if you’re still single despite all your best efforts, don’t worry – every day you spend waiting is one day closer to your good fortune. 

5. Try it on first!
5. Try it on first!
11 Mar 2015

5. Try it on first!

One or two per cent of the population has the ability to eyeball clothes for texture and fit. The rest of us need to spend half an hour in queue to try them on. Ugh, right? But it beats going back to return something.

The love parallel: You need to date someone – to “try them on”, so to speak – before making that commitment. Love at first sight might be the universal ideal, but so few of us are actually able to discern it.  

6. It’s 2013; online is the way to go
6. It’s 2013; online is the way to go
11 Mar 2015

6. It’s 2013; online is the way to go

Online dating isn’t the most glamorous route for dating, but when it works, it’s a total godsend. Think of it in terms of online shopping. It’s convenient, it’s quick, and you can do a ton of research before taking the plunge. What’s on screen may not exactly match what you get in real life, but we daresay that it’s often better. 

7. You get what you pay for
7. You get what you pay for
11 Mar 2015

7. You get what you pay for

Forever 21 and its copycats are all kinds of awesome…when you want something that will only last a season. If you want to pay $20 for a super cute sundress, by all means, go ahead, but be prepared for it to fall apart after three washes.

True love is all about sacrifice and commitment. The more effort that both of you put into a relationship, the more rewarding it will be, and the longer it will endure. Don’t settle for something cheap, easy, and low-maintenance (such as a sex buddy you only need to see on Friday nights after 3 AM), unless you’re also looking for something with a looming expiration date.

Invest in something that’s timeless. It might set you back in the short run, but it will serve you will long after those other cheap trend pieces have gone out of style. 

8. The best things are usually hidden out of sight
8. The best things are usually hidden out of sight
11 Mar 2015

8. The best things are usually hidden out of sight

There are few social faux pas more embarrassing than showing up at a party wearing the same dress as someone else. It’s bound to happen if you do most of your shopping in popular franchises. The only way to avoid this is buy looking for clothes and accessories in small boutiques that nobody knows about (or by going overseas – also a viable option for the lovelorn). Sure, these little stores might be harder to access, but that’s where you’ll find unique pieces loaded with history and created with love. So instead of pining over those same couple of guys that every single girl is pursuing, look out for the ones that keep a low profile. These men might not be your first choice, or even the first ones that you notice, but you’ll be glad that you snatched them up first. 

9. You often don’t know what you want until you see it
9. You often don’t know what you want until you see it
11 Mar 2015

9. You often don’t know what you want until you see it

Every single person hates that line about finding love when you’re not looking for it. But to some extent, it’s true – and there’s no better way to illustrate that than through shopping. The perfect cocktail dress won’t just appear in your closet. You actually need to enter the vicinity of a store to find it. But how often have you gone shopping for one thing, only to chance upon another?

For all you know, you might be pursuing the wrong type of guy. Don’t give up if your search has been unfruitful. Focus on developing the other things in your life, such as your career or your friendships, and trust that love will follow. 

10. You deserve the best
10. You deserve the best
11 Mar 2015

10. You deserve the best

There are so many people who wear things that are shabby, out of style, or unflattering because they’re either too lazy to try harder or they’re lacking in self-awareness. Despite the stigma that comes with it, shopping isn’t a materialistic frou-frou activity for vain people. It’s an avenue to presenting your best self. And don’t you deserve that?

It’s easy to get lazy in love – to date low-quality guys because everyone else seems out of your league, to stay in mediocre relationships because you can’t be bothered to work harder or find someone else, or to languish in loneliness at home because you’re afraid of putting yourself out there. 

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