4 ways to fight fair as a couple

Arguments are inevitable in any kind of romantic relationship. But look at it this way, arguments can actually help you accept each other better, as long as you follow these rules.

Fighting fair as a couple
Fighting fair as a couple
31 Mar 2016

Fighting fair as a couple

Though we're sure you don't enjoy arguing with your spouse, arguments are inevitable in any kind of romantic relationship. After all, you and your partner are two different people with views that won't always match. But look at it this way, arguments can actually help you accept each other better, as long as you follow these rules.

Choose your words wisely
Choose your words wisely
31 Mar 2016

Choose your words wisely

Kindness might be the last thing on your mind when you're in a fight, but it's the only way to prevent any resentment from lingering long after the argument dies down. Remember that miscommunication often happens even without you realising it, so you should make sure that you've really thought of the words you're saying, and that they won't hurt your partner, intentionally or not.

Focus on what you're arguing about
Focus on what you're arguing about
31 Mar 2016

Focus on what you're arguing about


Sometimes it's easy to forget why you both started arguing in the first place, since your disagreements have quickly turned into hurtful verbal attacks and desperate attempts to "win" the argument. Remind yourself and your partner that you should fight for one another, not with one another. Bring back the focus to one specific problem you had at the beginning - whether if it’s about wedding planning and deciding who to invite or simply where to go on a date - and try to reach a compromise calmly.

Communicate with your heart
Communicate with your heart
31 Mar 2016

Communicate with your heart

As they say, it's not about what you say, but how you say it. In an argument, it can be hard to hold back your pride and ego, but speaking harshly only to blame or degrade your partner will be hurtful for you both, and not solve any problems. Try to speak from the heart, be honest with your feelings, and be as genuine as possible so you can both reach a mutual understanding.

Put yourself in your partner's shoes
Put yourself in your partner's shoes
31 Mar 2016

Put yourself in your partner's shoes

As much as you want your side of the story to be heard and understood, remember that your partner feels the same way. Although it may be difficult at first, make an effort to listen to your partner's feelings and acknowledge that they are as important as yours. By putting yourself in your partner's shoes, you'll be able to understand the situation better and try to have a solution together.

Report a problem