5 deal breakers that aren’t really deal breakers

Don't turn down the chance to be with someone just because they have one of these five insignificant traits

Photos: ING Image
Photos: ING Image
14 Sep 2015

Photos: ING Image

As much as we all have our own ideas of the “perfect mate”, most of us would have realised by now that they don’t exist. After all, our imaginations will always mislead our expectations of real life. And more often than not, it’s the insignificant things that we tend to lose sleep over.

Here are 5 of them:

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1. She’s vegetarian
1. She’s vegetarian
14 Sep 2015

1. She’s vegetarian

Dietary restrictions or preferences are less of a big deal than you think. Sure, you’ll never be one of those couples that will be able to polish off half the menu at Carnivore. But perhaps you might want to show your love in a different way – by giving his/her food a shot. You might like it. And small gestures like that will go a long way.

2. He spends every Friday night playing video games
2. He spends every Friday night playing video games
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2. He spends every Friday night playing video games

A relationship does not mean the end of all personal space. We all have routines and ‘me time’ activities that we stick to. As much as we would love to be that couple hanging out in a chic bar on Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights, remember that you both had your own lives before you got together.

3. She spends too much time wanting to take selfies
3. She spends too much time wanting to take selfies
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3. She spends too much time wanting to take selfies

We all have habits that our partners can’t stand. That’s to be expected. Sit down, talk about it and compromise. Agree that you will entertain each other’s whims but know also when you should back down so your relationship doesn’t just exist on your terms. It isn’t all about you!

4. He should have stuck with his previous job which was more stable and paid more
4. He should have stuck with his previous job which was more stable and paid more
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4. He should have stuck with his previous job which was more stable and paid more

...not this new one that he actually likes but had to take a pay cut for!

Every once in a while, people make choices that prioritise their happiness over all else. Learn to share in that happiness. Try to ignore the fact that you have house loans to pay. Money can be earned; happiness, not so much. And a relationship needs happiness to work, not money.

5. She doesn’t read as much as I would like her to
5. She doesn’t read as much as I would like her to
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5. She doesn’t read as much as I would like her to

Opposites attract. That’s the truth. Try to look at your hobbies as opportunities to explore new things together. If she doesn’t like to read, introduce her to a magazine that you like. Start small. In turn, try to appreciate something that she likes, and get her to guide you through it.

With relationships, it’s always easy to end up sweating the small stuff. Arguments make it a lot worse, because all of a sudden, every tiny thing becomes intolerable. Try to remember that personality differences are always opportunities to grow together, not apart.

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