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What happens when your partner hasn’t quite grown up yet

Photos: ING Image
Photos: ING Image
11 Nov 2015

Photos: ING Image

Shortly after the 5-month mark of your relationship, you start to realise that your other half isn’t as perfect as he once seemed. He actually seems a little … immature. While a little spontaneity is always fun and spices things up, constantly juvenile behaviour may hint at something much more sinister: That your partner hasn’t quite grown up yet. If you feel like you’re constantly on different chapters of the life book (you being on maybe page 25 and him/her being on page 14), then read on!

This story first appeared on Lunch Click.

1. Petulance
1. Petulance
11 Nov 2015

1. Petulance

Does your partner constantly play the silent game to get his way? Does he do it in a totally serious manner? If so, a) he’s manipulative, and b) he’s incapable of constructive self-expression – the first sign of childishness.

2. Refusal to compromise on trivial issues
2. Refusal to compromise on trivial issues
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2. Refusal to compromise on trivial issues

If he’s always picking fights over the “small stuff”,then you need to re-evaluate your relationship ASAP. It probably means he doesn’t have the capacity to evaluate whether the eventual argument is worth it, and is more concerned with the more immediate damage to his ego rather than the relationship.

3. Refusal to engage you in arguments
3. Refusal to engage you in arguments
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3. Refusal to engage you in arguments

Your partner always has to have the last say in any argument, and his last say is always something that completely misses the point or something that is irrational and ridiculous. Sounds familiar? Sign of immaturity: he’s too emotionally immature to process the logic beyond the heat of the argument.

4. Flatulence jokes
4. Flatulence jokes
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4. Flatulence jokes

One word: Seriously? Fart jokes and laughing at people who trip over their own feet by accident? Most people outgrow them when they start secondary school. Although, if that’s your thing too, then hey, by all means.

5. Impolite behaviour
5. Impolite behaviour
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5. Impolite behaviour

You know how your teachers have always told you that whatever you say says more about you than the person you say it to/about? Your partner being rude just says that he’s childishly self-centered – so much that he cannot empathise with how he makes others feel.

6. Unwarranted jealousy
6. Unwarranted jealousy
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6. Unwarranted jealousy

If your partner gets unjustifiably jealous all the time, it could mean a) that he has unresolved insecurities, has yet to blossom into a confident, self-assured individual, and needs more time for personal development, b) he doesn’t have sufficient emotional maturity to understand that he has to place trust and faith in you for a solid relationship or c) both.

If your partner still acts like a child, you can try to stick it out and aid him in the path of personal growth. However, if there is a huge existing gap in maturity, it’s probably not worth the time and effort – you’ll find yourself treating your partner as an inferior, and both parties will quite possibly end up resenting each other.

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