Debunked: 8 sex myths about women

Could everything you know about women and sex actually be wrong?  

Photos: ING Image
Photos: ING Image
22 Sep 2015

Photos: ING Image

Sex myths about women are like a book that no one dares to write because some facts are downright slanderous and an insult to their virtue. Some are factual - like women peaking sexually later than men (about 30 for women vs 18-21 years for men) with many women in the 30-40s actually having a higher sex drive and more powerful orgasms than their peers in the teens and 20s age bracket. Others just beg a good laugh - like the interminable question of whether men prefers a woman who goes bare or goes native. Or if women are naturally more monogamous than men are (note: people cheat for all sorts of reasons, it's gender-neutral). At the end of the day, some sex myths are universal fact whereas others boil down to culture, socialization and personal preference. There's no one-size-fits-all perfect sex master manual.

Let's take a look at some sex urban legends and see which have outlived their expiry dates and which ones are here are stay.

 

1. She needs to emotionally connect to have sex, and she might fall in love with you: Some do
1. She needs to emotionally connect to have sex, and she might fall in love with you: Some do
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1. She needs to emotionally connect to have sex, and she might fall in love with you: Some do

Sure, some women need romance and emotional intimacy to have sex and enjoy it. But these days, lasses aren't newbies to no-strings-attached sex. They still feel when in the act but it doesn't come with relationship demands or obligations on your part.

2. She can't handle a one-night stand: Not true
2. She can't handle a one-night stand: Not true
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2. She can't handle a one-night stand: Not true

Stop dreaming. Some women become easily attached to a man she's having sex with, others use sex as a way to ensnare a man. But not all do. Some just want a casual encounter to satiate certain carnal needs. Women are more brazen nowadays. Many deem casual sex worthy of consideration only if the man knows what he's doing, is unselfish in bed and willing to take her to an orgasm. If sexual diseases were off the table, anonymity was guaranteed and judgments taken offline, there would undoubtedly be a higher number of women who would opt for a no-strings-attached sexual liaison.

 

3. If the woman hasn’t been able to climax, she's sexually inhibited: Not always
3. If the woman hasn’t been able to climax, she's sexually inhibited: Not always
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3. If the woman hasn’t been able to climax, she's sexually inhibited: Not always

There are emotionally and psychological reasons (rape, abuse) that make a women inhibited when intimate. But it could also be because the man doesn't really know what he's doing so she's not hitting that high.

Unless a woman has some experience and knows her own body, it will be harder for her to orgasm as readily as a man can or be able to steer the man into doing what pleasures her. Her partner also needs to be willing to give in bed and view his partner as equal in the bedroom. Barring that, it will forever have a one-sided outcome.

4. We love all the sex tricks your ex liked: Not
4. We love all the sex tricks your ex liked: Not
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4. We love all the sex tricks your ex liked: Not

What works for one might not work for another. Women like men who don't just shove their expertise around. A little probing and sensitivity will go a long way to building mutual respect in bed.

 

5. Women lie about the number of partners they've slept with: Generally true
5. Women lie about the number of partners they've slept with: Generally true
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5. Women lie about the number of partners they've slept with: Generally true

If you're anything above 21 years with a few sex partners to your belt, this will start to be your reality. Men do it to manage that green eyed monster in you. As for women? Blame it on the stereotypes of how a "virtuous, take-a-woman-back-to-momma, not-to-bed" lady should behave. 

6 Women always seem to experience sexual pain: Yes and no
6 Women always seem to experience sexual pain: Yes and no
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6 Women always seem to experience sexual pain: Yes and no

Some do, most don't. We'll never know the actual numbers. Some sex research suggest that a lethal combo of factors (anxiety, lack of experience, the way a person views sex - unwelcome dominance vs bond building - and past emotional and sexual experiences) do affect whether a woman eases into sex or has some level of pain initially.

7. You can't get pregnant when you're menstruating: We sure hope so
7. You can't get pregnant when you're menstruating: We sure hope so
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7. You can't get pregnant when you're menstruating: We sure hope so

But medical experts say pregnancy can happen at any stage of your menstrual cycle, even on the day of its arrival. This is because sperm can has a week's shelf life inside your body. So, if sex happens during your period and you ovulate shortly after, his little swimmers could still be dangling around ready to bust a move with your little ovules when they appear.

8. Women have a lower sex drive and are less interested in sex than men: You wish
8. Women have a lower sex drive and are less interested in sex than men: You wish
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8. Women have a lower sex drive and are less interested in sex than men: You wish

Some men think they have to coax a woman into sex. In reality, she’s more like you than you think. She just needs the safe space to express herself and get lusty. A woman who has experienced glory days in bed will always ask for more. If she doesn't, she might not like your technique or is bored having sex with you. The fact is, women like sex and crave it when it's good, but labels like "too sexual," "slut," or "aggressive in bed" can keep them from expressing themselves.

Karen Khng is Managing Director of Love Script International.
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