The perks of being in a long distance relationship

Distance makes the heart grow fonder

Photos: ING Image
Photos: ING Image
22 May 2015

Photos: ING Image

If you’ve ever set your alarm for 3 in the morning for a Skype date, you know a thing or two about the workings of a long distance relationship. Props if it involves different time zones. A large chunk of your money is spent on gas, train tickets, or flights. You endure weeks or months without seeing your boyfriend or girlfriend.

 

But believe it or not, there are some surprising benefits to the whole thing. Take these perks into consideration before you swear off long distance altogether. 

1. You don’t get sick of each other or fight about the little things as much.
1. You don’t get sick of each other or fight about the little things as much.
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1. You don’t get sick of each other or fight about the little things as much.

There’s generally less nitpicking about trivial things like leaving dirty clothes on the floor or not putting the cap back on the toothpaste. You know, ridiculous things many couples fight about—except for you and your long distance love, because you’re both way too thankful for the precious time you have together.

Even if they press the snooze button 10 times and never close drawers all the way, it’s okay because you don’t have to deal with it every day. Actually, you might find these habits endearing, like little signs that they were there.

 

2. You preserve your independence and sense of self.
2. You preserve your independence and sense of self.
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2. You preserve your independence and sense of self.

Everyone has friends who get into serious relationships and then are never seen without their SO. It’s a 2-become-1 situation in which their identities are fused. When you’re doing long distance, you’re less likely to lose your sense of self in the relationship. It’s healthy to have your own life, friends, and hobbies. You’re a couple, but you’re also separate and independent.

3. You become really good at communicating.
3. You become really good at communicating.
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3. You become really good at communicating.

You both try harder to communicate your affection, wants, and needs. Research suggests that long distance couples have more meaningful interactions than those that are geographically together. You miss out on some physical intimacy, but you make up for it through emotionally intimate conversations.

Every single phone call and message is valued enormously. You also love hearing about the minutiae of their life like what they’re wearing and doing that day. In fact, you romanticize and daydream about these mundane details all the time.

4. You know it’s not just physical.
4. You know it’s not just physical.
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4. You know it’s not just physical.

“He’s only with me for my hot bod” isn’t something you ever worry about. When you spend most of your time apart, you know you’re both in this for more than the physical stuff.

5. Distance keeps the sparks alive.
5. Distance keeps the sparks alive.
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5. Distance keeps the sparks alive.

Couples who are always around each other usually settle into a comfortable rhythm. Sometimes the excitement wanes. With all the time in the world to cuddle, they don’t feel the need to do it every chance they get.

In a long distance relationship, you fully savor and appreciate the time you’re actually together. Not a single second is taken for granted. After not seeing each other for a while, you can’t wait to hold their hand, smell their neck, and look into their eyes when they talk. That moment when you finally meet again is priceless. All of it—the waiting, the dinners alone and staying awake for phone calls—was worth it.

6. You have a reason to travel and explore more.
6. You have a reason to travel and explore more.
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6. You have a reason to travel and explore more.

What better reason is there to pack up and travel when your significant other is the destination? Each visit is a mini-vacation to a place that’s become your second home. Your days are filled with doing cool and free things with the best companion ever. And when your boyfriend/girlfriend visits you, you’re excited to show them all the best places around town and finally do the touristy things you’ve always wanted to do.

 

7. You can slack off on always looking sexy.
7. You can slack off on always looking sexy.
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7. You can slack off on always looking sexy.

It’s easier to dress up for Skype dates than actual dates. There’s no need to endure high heels, so bring on the fuzzy slippers. Feeling a bit bloated today? Don’t bother changing out of your oversized pajama pants – just throw on a smoldering top and you’re good to go.

When you answer their morning call with an “I just woke up” sultry voice, they’re probably imagining you with sexy bed hair and glowing skin. Not with crusty eyes and a stale potato chip in your hair. Fortunately they can’t tell over the phone.

8. You’ve never sent and received so many handwritten letters and care packages in your life.
8. You’ve never sent and received so many handwritten letters and care packages in your life.
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8. You’ve never sent and received so many handwritten letters and care packages in your life.

There’s something about a love across distances that inspires acts of romance. You’re always thinking of creative ways to express your adoration for one another. There’s a steady stream of surprises delivered to your mailbox: postcards, poems, portraits, hand drawn comics and flipbooks, pressed rose petals, homemade cookies, a worn shirt sprayed with their cologne. Each is a reminder of how much you’re missed. 

9. You’re serious about a future together.
9. You’re serious about a future together.
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9. You’re serious about a future together.

The ultimate goal in a long distance relationship is to end up in the same place. This forces you to be committed and focused on planning for a future together – otherwise, what’s the point? Along the way, you both make plenty of sacrifices and learn how to manage those sacrifices.

Know this: When they’re doing everything to survive the distance with you, they’re serious about keeping you in their life plan.

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