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Singapore isn’t known for being sexy. In fact, thanks to its low fertility rate and laws against pornography, the country has a reputation among outsiders for being a little prudish. But perhaps this reputation should be taken with a grain of salt. In an article published by The Atlantic last month, the American author, who titled her piece “I Talked About Sex With Singaporeans – Their Reaction Surprised Me” expressed amazement that teachers here permitted her to lecture teenagers on sex in Shakespeare’s writing. Another article that made its rounds on the web last month reported that Vibease, a company based in Singapore and San Francisco, had created a wearable, Bluetooth- enabled vibrator that women can control using a mobile phone app. Finally, findings published in a recent regional sex survey conducted by Menarini and Kantar Health suggest that the problem may lie in a lack of communication more than in low libidos. So people here aren’t frosty, per se. Men and women in Singapore DO want more sex! They might just not talk about it as openly as other people in the region.
That being said, we’re more than happy to be the mouthpiece for all these sexy factoids.
Click through to read more surprising results from the survey, as well as other recent findings about sex habits in Singapore.
1. More than 7 out of 10 Singaporean women want more sex
Men of Singapore, rejoice. According to the Menarini survey, which covered nine countries and more than 3500 respondents, men and women in Singapore want more sex compared to their counterparts in the region. But the difference between women in Singapore and women elsewhere is astounding. While less 70 per cent of women in the Asia Pacific region expressed a desire for more sex, almost 80 per cent of Singaporean women said they could stand to have a little more.
2. Men and women in Singapore have less sex than the rest of the region
In a 2003 survey conducted by Durex, researchers found that Singaporeans have the least amount of sex compared to other people in the region. Ten years later…well, those statistics still stand. The Menarini survey found that while people living in the Asian-Pacific have sex roughly 8 times a month, men and women in Singapore have it just over 5 times a month.
Why is this the case? While we could write a whole sociological paper on the topic, personal
anecdotes suggest that it has something to do with the long working hours and generally exhausting nature of existence here.
3. Singaporeans plan their sexy time hours before it happens
Compared to men and women in the Asia-Pacific region, Singaporeans plan further ahead for a little afternoon delight. In general, people in the other regions surveyed know they’re going to have sex about 2 hours before it happens. Meanwhile, Singaporeans know they’re going to get down about 3 hours before acting on it. And women here know they’ll be having sex an hour ahead of their partners.
4. Three out of 4 men in Singapore are highly concerned about satisfying their partners
Ladies, it’s your turn to rejoice. Most men in Singapore are unselfish in bed and actively worry about satisfying their partners. While 71 per cent of men rated their partner’s satisfaction as “highly important,” 60 per cent said this was a matter of “extreme” concern…compared to just 38 per cent of men in the region who said the same thing.
Nor is satisfying one’s partner merely about proving his sexual prowess. The same survey revealed that 61 per cent of Singaporean men rate mutual satisfaction as “extremely important in a relationship.” The biggest determinant of mutual satisfaction? Not achieving orgasm, but “feeling loved and cared for during the sexual encounter.”
5. People in Singapore are not adequately educated about a certain male problem
Remember our coverage on premature ejaculation (PE)? This related survey, which is from the same company, shed some light on the phenomenon via numbers. Less than half of people in Singapore are aware that PE’s even a sexual problem, while more than 40 per cent of women in Singapore INCORRECTLY link age to its causes. The truth is, PE’s a biological issue that can be solved with drugs, such as Dapoxetine (recently launched in Singapore).
Log onto ministryofmanhood.com.sg to learn more about how you can get past (or help your partner get past) premature ejaculation.
6. Who initiates the “sex problems talk”? Women (even then, it’s a low percentage)
Menarini’s regional survey revealed that men initiate sex itself, but women are more likely to bring up sexual needs and problems. While a third of women would speak up if something were a miss, less than 25 per cent of men would do the same.
Maybe this isn’t too shocking, considering gender stereotypes, but we’re a little stricken as to why the majority of couples in Singapore don’t like to discuss their sexual problems with each other. While men say that their sex problems aren’t serious enough to discuss, or that it’s not normal for men to bring up, the women surveyed were primarily worried about hurting their partner’s feelings were they to point out the problem.
7. Singaporeans would rather eat than have sex during a beach vacation
On a lighter note, another recent survey by Expedia revealed a rather amusing insight: on holiday, Singaporeans beachgoers prioritise eating good food over getting intimate with their partner. On the other hand, the Malaysians surveyed said that having sex with their partner was their first priority during beach vacations.
8. Speaking of sex on the beach…
On a similar note, while only 9 per cent of Singaporeans surveyed by Expedia said that they would have sex with a stranger they met at the beach, 20 per cent of Malaysians that they’d go for it. But given their love for good food, we’re guessing that 100 per cent of Singaporeans on holiday would indulge in some strange, yet delicious new seafood over a strange, yet delicious new suitor.
Statistics don’t exist in a volume – all of them illuminate a bigger story about the culture they were taken from. The good news is that despite the low birth rate and unromantic reputation, Singaporeans are by no means asexual – women not only desire more intimacy, but men are unusually concerned with making sure their partner feels emotionally and sexually satisfied. Both men and women in Singapore make great catches, but it sounds like the kicker lies recognising those desires, going for it, and having some fun in the process.